Life Revelation

So as i was talking to a friend the other night and giving my daddy Trey advice and i made some life revelations of my own....The first being that someone cannot hurt you unless you allow them to hurt you! I feel like this is true in all areas of life. It is up to us and us alone to stand up for our selves and take control. we are in control of our feelings and we are the ones who allow others to hurt us. the 2nd being you must first love yourself...the wise Rupaul one said "if you can't love yourself how in the hell is someone else going to?" This statement is totally true. 3rd...you and you alone are in control of your destiny...Westside High School had a motto that said "failure is not an option" BULL SHIT...you can always choose to fail. everyday we are face with challenges. they are often not great but it's how you cope and deal with those challenges that make you successful or a failure. 4th Life is SHIT...I hate the expressions "things will get better" "the only way out is up" "the sun will come out tomorrow"...i think these are crap...Instead i think we should say "Tomorrow is a new day!" this statement is true. now tomorrow probally will be 90% shit, but it is the 10% that is not that is worth looking forward to. i feel like we all too often, me included, concentrate on the bad and hoard over it when we should instead cherish the good times, because they are far to short and to far apart not to enjoy them and if we are always caught up on the bad the good will pass us by. I think that at the end of the day if you can just say that you stayed afloat and didn't sink in the never ending hole that "the only way out is up" then you can say i was a success. After all if we didn't have all the bad then we wouldn't know just how great and awesome the good was...lastly i have learned in my existence here on this earth, and this is also a new revelation as of around April of last year, that it doesn't matter how much you do for someone. it doesn't matter if you do without so that they can have. it doesn't matter, it just doesn't matter. in this life you must place yourself on a pedestal. do what makes you happy. take hold of your future. go after your dreams. you can't live for others because if you do at the end of your life you will have never lived yourself and you will be left with nothing from always giving and the ones you gave it all to won't appreciate it because they will not have worked for it. and in life if it is worth having, then it is worth working for. So you have to do for you...you have to live for you...you have to make "you" happy....and in the process if others have benefited then that's great but you have to be your number one priority. For a long time that has not been the case in my life, but I'm working on changing theses things, and i hope you will re-evaluate your life and make sure you are living for you not your job... not your family..but for you...i feel like everyone will appreciate you and love you more with this new found love and respect for yourself! sorry for the grammer and run-on sentences...it's just how it came out. :-)